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SINGLES
learn to choose, attract and stay in a quality relationship with
YOUR Right One. (Matchmaking also available.)
ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP? Make it even better!
PARENTS learn to be in a warm
and positive relationship with your children -- whether they are
5 or 45.
The RUBY KEY provides personal counseling and assistance in changing
your negative patterns to positive ones. You’ll learn to choose
a positive, empowering partner instead of someone like the guy you
loved at 16 who as an alcoholic or your mother who nagged you. This
may be done consciously, using something similar to the Do-It-Yourself
kit included here for developing positive partnering patterns. It
may require hypnotic age regression if the negative patterns are
deep or particularly destructive.
This is a tool which you can use to decide if a caller from a personal
ad is worth meeting, whether an attractive someone you meet at a
dance is worth dating, whether someone you've seen a few times is
worth getting serious with, etc. This is a very abbreviated form
of the instructions to be found in Matchmaker's Corner: Choosing,
Finding, and Attracting a LifeMate. The workbook may be ordered
on this site.
You'll start with something very basic and keep honing it to suit
you. List those attributes you consider essential in a relationship
(E), those you'd like to have (L), and those you absolutely don't
want (N). E's are 7-10 or multiples of 10 points, L's are 1-7, N's
are negative 20-100. Add up all your possible positives for a total
possible score. Rate each important past relationship on each characteristic
for practice and to see if your scoring tool reflects what actually
worked or didn't in these relationships. For example, if being a
cat lover is worth 10 points, the guy who tolerates them in the
house may get a 3 while the lady who cleans out the cat box and
cuddles with them in bed gets a 10. Add up all the positives and
divide by the total possible score to get an initial percentage.
Then deduct the negatives from the total actual score. Get a new
percentage by dividing this number by your original total possible
score. Do this for a current possible if you have one or find one
for that purpose.
This tool will change as you use it. You may find you aren't asking
enough from a partner. If you deserve better, work can be done on
your self-esteem in the Ruby Key and through such recordings/ booklets
as "From Stress to Success." If you are Joe Shmo asking for Miss
America, you can either lower your requirements to something more
reasonable or raise your qualifications through education, success
training, etc. to become someone Miss America would accept. This
also applies to Jane Shmo looking to meet Mr. Rich and Handsome.
To get someone wonderful, become someone wonderful. The
Seven Keys to Self-Actualization include many options which
can help you to do just that!
Finding the Right One
Your SUCCESS CENTER hypnotherapist can help
you establish first exactly what kind of relationship you are
seeking, as this affects not only where such a person might be
found but also how the looking should be done. You could be looking
for anything from a marital partner to a casual date.
You'll use your list from Partnering Patterns to write a couple
of paragraphs on your Right One. This piece should focus more
on what this person would likely be doing than who he is.
Example: My Mr. Right enjoys science fiction. He goes to local
science fiction conventions and browses the SF section of the
local library. He is also spiritual. He attends lectures at metaphysical
book stores and New Age Expos. He is health conscious and goes
regularly to the gym. He eats at Health Food restaurants. Since
he is a man who owns his own business and also cares about his
community, he is a member of Rotary, Kiwanis, Optimists or some
similar organization. Use this paragraph about your Right One's
interests to figure out his daily activities.
If your list calls for someone athletic, the local coed gym is
a good place to look for them. If your interests are more specific,
tennis clubs/classes, places where singles golf, etc. may be appropriate.
If your list had church or temple goer as an essential, church
is an excellent place to find this person -- every local church/temple
of the acceptable faith or faiths has social activities. And so
on.The following is an example of a strategy I developed for a
client of mine during this session -- a Latin American tennis
instructor wanting to meet a Latin lady to marry.
1. Go to singles' events
advertised in Latin papers such as La Opinion in the Los Angeles
area. Get the paper when it comes out on Thursday of this week
and check it for such events. Go to one such event which involves
tennis, if there is one, and one which is a social evening event
such as dancing.
2. Advertise in the personals' columns of such papers. Mention
free tennis lessons for life to my Right One along with such things
as romantic walks on the beach to make the ad stand out and to
attract someone with similar interests.
3. Look through the personals in that and similar Latin papers,
circling those ads which both interest you and whom you would
interest. Call each until you find one you can make a date with,
using questions you have developed based on your list from the
Partnering Patterns list.
4. Join a Latin Matchmaking service -- such services will advertise
in the Latin papers.
5. Join a Matchmaking service -- Marriage Minded Introductions
may be suitable. Do this and you might not need most of the above,
though having more than one iron in the fire is still a good plan.
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